The Cinderella complex was first described by Colette Dowling, who wrote a book on women’s fear of independence – an unconscious desire to be taken care of. Buy Complexo De Cinderela (Em Portuguese do Brasil) by Colette Dowling ( ISBN: ) from Amazon’s Book Store. Everyday low prices and free . Colette Dowling Biography – – Colette Dowling Biography and List of Works – Colette Colette Dowling Is the author of books such as Complexo De Cinderela .
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The Cinderella Complex: Women’s Hidden Fear of Independence by Colette Dowling
I love this book. It’s very true that women often bring the dependence to the equation because of their upbringing, and the author does also mention oppressive husbands and men who hold all the financial and executive power, but she never seems to focus on the fact that many men promote this system and seem to be pretty happy with the arrangement, never actually encouraging anyone to gain more independence whatsoever.
Yes there is an educational, societal and cultural effect on that but on the other side; half side is compleo mistake. Corsini A Dictionary of Psychology. It changed for the better my understanding of the opposite sex. Unsure of their identities to begin with, dependent, vulnerable, and helpless, they find the moment of passionate abandonment unbearable, and refuse to give themselves up to it.
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Amazon Advertising Cindefela, attract, and engage customers. Women are natural nurturers. I can’t deny the fact that I enjoyed some of its chapters but there were so many things that I couldn’t agree with because they just didn’t make sense to me like the way Dowling built her arguments in favor of the idea that ALL women are afraid of independence.
So nobody asks us; what do you want instead they direct us the way that they want. You cannot read it without changing the way you think – and maybe the way you live. I think these issues are really important and not discussed often often enough, because emotional and also financial dependence still affect many women today.
Another reason is the great effort that the society and media make to focus more on the beauty of girls’ appearance than the beauty of their minds.
So it was with horror that thanks to the present age where everything is online I recently read an article from where Dowling was interviewed in the New York Times and revealed that she was then 60 with no savings and no investments. I do not understand.
Aunque tiene algunas ideas interesantes, creo que para el tiempo en el que vivimos algunas exposiciones se me quedan anticuadas y no me siento muy identificada.
Another thing that she didn’t consider was that fact that not all women want the same things; you can’t force them to be violently ambitious or working mothers. On the other hand, I think this is a book about Colette Dowling and not about everyone in the world–I think the world is an even harder place than she describes.
Cinderella complex Cinderella effect The Cinderella Movement. Self Popular psychology Complex psychology Cinderella. Return to Book Page. Sad in some places in its accuracy. We may not always recognize it as clearly as this woman did, but it exists within us all, emerging when we least expect it, permeating our dreams, dampening our ambitions.
Oct 18, Kate H rated it it was ok. And this was Jungian in its understanding and argument, even though I believe that Dowling is not a Jungian. It is the first step that must be taken to free oneself from an ingrained need to serve and to be protected.
Dowling’s issue with Cinderella is not because she loved and married the prince. I only read this book because a man returned it to the library, and one of the men whom I do not believe returns things for a wife or mother, but only checks things out for himself. A lot of the pieces are powerful and speak personally to me.
Retrieved from ” https: There’s a problem loading this menu right now. It is an easy to subvert ambition dkwling personal goals to become a caretaker.
The Cinderella Complex: Women’s Hidden Fear of Independence
Others point to Ronald Fairbairn ‘s concept of mature dependency,  to challenge cultural disparagement of dependency in favor of an ideal of isolated independence.
After pages I had to give up!! And that is without being asked to do so and without the knowledge or desire of the love object.
Sep 16, MahsaMsoomian rated it it was amazing. Badly structured, badly written, out of dowlig, too much about Cjnderela culture, writer’s experience, interviews Nov 21, Nanksy rated it it was amazing Shelves: More commonly than one might think, women willingly give up their independence for love. I was 16 at the time and her son went to school with me. To see what your friends thought of this book, please sign up. She is realistic, well grounded, and self-loving.
It can help you no matter what your age or your goals. It’s not just about becoming conscious of the way society has trained women to be afraid of independence – Privilege and position in society are as important when it comes to ‘springing free’.
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